TeaSpill Community Rules
& Standards (2026)
The lounge works because everyone in it respects what makes it worth protecting. Here are the rules — not to restrict the community, but to preserve the honesty and safety that make it unlike anywhere else.
Why Rules Make the Lounge Better
An anonymous community without standards becomes a toxic void. An anonymous community with the right standards becomes something that couldn't exist with real names attached — honest, fearless, and genuinely useful. TeaSpill's community rules are designed to protect the conditions that make the lounge work, not to control what women say within them.
The fundamental rule is simple: be honest about your actual experiences, treat other women with the solidarity that brought you here, and don't weaponise anonymity against the community that protects you.
What's Welcomed and Encouraged
Sharing your genuine personal experiences
Your lived experience is valid and shareable. You don't need to soften it, apologise for it, or frame it for a mixed audience.
Posting anonymously about patterns and behaviours
Describing a man's behaviour, without fabrication, is protected expression and exactly what this community exists for.
Voting honestly on situations
Vote what you actually think. The community's value is in honest votes — not in solidarity votes that tell someone what they want to hear.
Disagreeing with the consensus
If 400 women voted red flag and you think it's a yellow, say so. Minority opinions with good reasoning improve the community's accuracy.
Asking for support, not just verdicts
Not every post is a question. 'I just need to vent' is a valid post. You don't have to be asking for a vote to be welcome in the lounge.
Sharing updates — even if they embarrass you
Went back to him after the community voted red? Update. You won't be judged. The community learns from every outcome, including complicated ones.
What's Not Allowed
Fabricated or knowingly false posts
Inventing or significantly exaggerating a situation is the fastest way to destroy the community's accuracy and your own credibility. It is also the one violation that puts you at legal risk. Do not do this.
Sharing another woman's private information without consent
If a woman shared something with you privately and you post it here without her knowledge, you have violated her trust and potentially the platform's privacy standards.
Coordinated targeting or pile-ons
TeaSpill is not a platform for organising harassment campaigns against specific individuals. Sharing a situation for community evaluation is different from coordinating an attack.
Posting CSAM or explicit non-consensual content
Zero tolerance. Immediate permanent removal. If you encounter this content, report it immediately.
Attempting to identify anonymous posters
Trying to identify who posted a specific anonymous post — through the post content, cross-referencing with other platforms, or any other means — violates the fundamental safety contract of the community.
Men joining or attempting to access the community
TeaSpill is a women-only platform. Attempts to infiltrate the community — through account creation, invitation fraud, or any other means — are treated as the most serious category of violation.
Advertising or promotional content
The lounge is not a marketplace. Promotional posts, MLM recruitment, and unsolicited advertising are removed.
How Moderation Works
TeaSpill uses a hybrid moderation model: community reporting plus active moderation. Any post can be reported using the three-dot menu. High-confidence community reports result in fast removal. Moderators review all reports, and posts that receive multiple high-confidence reports are temporarily hidden pending review.
Moderation decisions can be appealed. If you believe your post was incorrectly removed, you can submit a review request through the appeal process in your account settings. The moderation team aims to respond to appeals within 48 hours.
Repeated violations result in progressive consequences: warning, temporary posting restriction, permanent removal. Single serious violations (fabrication, CSAM, infiltration attempts) result in immediate permanent removal.
The Spirit of the Rules
Every rule above exists to protect one thing: a community where women can speak honestly about their experiences without fear of judgment, exposure, or retaliation. The moment those conditions are threatened — whether by fabrication, infiltration, or targeting — the lounge loses what makes it valuable.
You are not just a user of this space. You are a co-creator of its culture. The lounge is exactly as safe, honest, and useful as the collective decisions of every woman in it.